When Smiles Hide Pain

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Today’s conversation is going to be tender and very much necessary.

In light of everything that is happening, especially

involving this tragic death of Rob Reiner,

reminds us of what is going on around us, something

we often face, and yet we hardly speak about it.

I’m Liza Boubari, your expert, hypnotherapist,

and stress management consultant.

I know just yesterday we were talking and the conversation turned into this topic,

and I wanted to share about that today.

So because no one is immune to hardship, and no one is even exempt to

what is happening internally in their home, which is the inner struggle.

We have seen this before with Robin Williams, who’s laughter, and just

brought joy to millions of people while he was struggling internally.

And just the other day I was reading a documentary

about Sally Field, where she bravely shared her own

difficulties, her own struggles, before she became

the flying nun, and how that being on the side of the.

Being on that show practically saves her. So, freeing does not protect the heart.

Success does not even silence the pain we as humans go

through because bottom line were all human, and smiling from

the outside, looking absolutely gorgeous, the perfection,

and everything, that so many of us, especially women,

yes, it is beautiful. It is, I’m not dissing it, I’m just saying, it

does not mean that internally we are not struggling, and smiling from the

outside does not mean that although it creates this beautiful mask of

beauty at the end of the day, we are human, and we all have our own pains.

I believe there is no form that does not have their own secrets, their

own pain, their own tragedy. Some early in their childhood others in their

adulthood, and while, why am I talking about this? Because while everything

is happening, all the parties are going on, the shoppings are happening,

and the holidays are filled with lights, gatherings, and celebrations

for some, this season can be quite heavy, lonely, and overwhelming.

So, if you are going through this, through something difficult,

or you know of someone who is quietly struggling, please

know this. I want you to know that you, it’s not about weakness,

and you’re not broken, and definitely you are not alone.

If I can’t help you, I will find the right person to be of help to you, even

if it is for us to get on a call and just talk, and just for me to listen.

So, I thought, what can I give you? Because at this moment

there are people who are in hospitals, in their hospital bed,

going through their own pain, and there are those who are

shopping and happy and everything, you know, there is always pain.

There is always struggle. But how we deal with that is the

most important thing, how you overcome it, how you manage

it, because managing stress, or managing your internal

conflict is the ones that I work with, and I can help you with.

So, I came up with seven tools, or seven steps, or seven gentle ways

to support you during this time. First of all, I want you to do this.

Pause and breathe. Take a breath for yourself. Just yesterday

I had a client, and she was constantly holding her breath.

Breathe, breathe, and although we are always

breathing, I want you to do a conscious breath work.

So, if you have to put a reminder for you to every half an hour,

or every 15 minutes, like a dingoes over there, and you go,

I want you to do that. Even on slow conscious breath can calm your nervous

system and bring this moment of presentness,

and you become one with your breath.

So, if you are feeling something, today I was at my bank, and the manager

said, “I was so busy, I could not even attend my friend’s funeral.”

I was very heartful, heart-breaking for her, and that’s because she was so backed

up with everything, and it becomes emotional,

and yet struggling with, “This is my

business, I can’t leave my business, I can’t

leave doing what I am supposed to, because

I have something to attend to that is very important, which is a personal thing.”

And for her, that was very difficult, of course, business, and family that internal

struggle, that’s what she was dealing with, not why I can’t go or anything else.

It’s the internal struggle of, “I was struggling being in

two places, because this is important as much as that was.”.

So, stay present, and to these image in life reminds us what is

most important. It is you. It is family. It is your loved ones.

No matter what is happening inside, remember

that secrets are also at burden. Emburdened is

heaviness. It is heaviness that we hold on to

that eventually we suppress if not expressed.

I work with my clients who suppress their emotions, and their

body gets tight and stiff, uptight, walking on eggshells,

stress affects them, and they create this internal anxiety.

Anxiety creates this panic. Do you see how this is evolving?

So, what I do is I help them, and I can help you

the same way, let’s deal with one thing at a time.

When someone smokes three packs a day, it’s like, “It’s back to

back.” You might turn around and say, “Wow, how can anyone do that?”.

Because it’s constantly suppressing the pain,

the internal struggle. Something that he had not

dealt with, and today it got to a point that

the doctor said, “You must stop this smoking.”

It’s in must now, so for the must, he came. And the

intention is yes for him to stop smoking completely.

But it is bringing it from three packs to one pack, and then

he feels in control because it’s like, “Okay, I can do that.”

Once you realize you can, the subconscious says,

“Give me more, and I will deliver more for you.”.

So, another one is reach out, truly. Reach out one safe conversation with a

friend, with a loved one, that you trust, or a professional that you trust.

Call me. I’ll be more than happy to listen.

Limit your over-stimulation. Set boundaries for yourself

to say no, because no is as good of a response as a yes.

And take care of your body, just as a reminder to breathe. Tap on

your heart, let your heart know you are tapping. You are caring.

Just like when we put in a baby on our chest that we

tap. It’s reminding them to, “I’m here, and it’s okay.”.

Believe it or not, there is a part of you internally

that still wants to be reminded. I’m okay. You got me.

So, if you want to sleep better by all means, go

to my website to www.healwithin.com/shop. Get one

of my audio recordings. I have 12 audio recordings

from Stress No More, Relax and Unwind, Deep sleep.

If you’re struggling with cancer, there is one

that is Healing Cocoon. If you know someone

who is struggling with their confidence by all means, there is one for the confidence.

There is one for dropping your weight. If you listen to that alone every

single night, and there is one for the exercise, download that one.

You don’t walk with that one because the message that is

being conveyed in your ears once you put your earphones

on. It’s three layers. I have the music. I have the

words and then I have another layer underneath that.

It’s like the subliminal messaging that is placed for your subconscious mind to

integrate, not only listening to the one that has dropped weight every single

night before you go to sleep because what you hear, what you listen to, at

the end of the night before you drift into sleep. Remember, drift into sleep.

It’s profound because that’s what it stays in your mind, in the back of your mind,

in your subconscious. Begin, it takes that. Banks it into memory and makes that work.

When you listen to that for 33 days consecutively, automatically, the

subconscious mind says, “Oh, I got that. I’m going to create that as a habit.”

And when you continue a habit consistently, every day and every way for

33 consecutive days, because it’s more than 31 days, it’s two days already

into the next month. If you start today, you will already be halfway

through accomplishing what you want in new habit, the beginning of the year.

It’s easy. Care for your body. Sleep better.

Hydrate your body, especially in the cold. Make sure

that your feet are nice and cozy and warm. Support

is not a failure. Ask. And you shall receive.

My quote for today is, “You cannot suffer the past or future because they

do not exist. What you are suffering is your memory and your imagination.”.

Because it’s not happening at that moment, everything that happened in the past, you

cannot suffer that. It’s already done. And

stop suffering of what can be the worry worth.

That’s just deal with today.

So let this be a gentle reminder on this beautiful holiday,

no matter where you were, let us pray for everyone who’s going

through their own difficulties, either a difficulty in Canada, in

Los Angeles. Everyone is their own celebrity. So celebrate you.

This reminder is, this moment is where you breathe and your breath is. This moment

is where support exists. It’s time to heal within. And that’s how healing begins.

I’m Liza Boubari, and I am here for you.

If this message conveyed or touched you in any

way, I hope you get in touch with me. Show me by

just a little hand, a wave. Give me a message and

let me know how I can be of assistance to you.

Until next week, God bless you and may do universal light surround you. Bye.