Finding Peace In the Noise

Welcome to Heal Talk Tuesdays with Liza, where

transformation begins as we evoke, embrace, and evolve.

Greetings, greetings, greetings, greetings, and welcome to Heal Talk

Tuesdays. This is Liza. It’s so good to be here with you, isn’t it?

Today, I want to start with a hard-to-heart

conversation. Nothing but hard-to-heart today.

And I want to ask something. When outrage becomes louder

than the truth, what do you do? What do you feel inside?

Because so much has happened in the last week with not only in our country,

but I wanted to see what’s happening inside your home, inside your body.

So when something like that happens, how do you feel? Do you notice

it in your shoulders? Do you tense up? Do you get angry? Do you yell?

Or are you going social media? And just about start

looking for things that are happening and respond.

Well, a lot has happened in the last month for me, not only

in my family, something tragic that happened in my family.

I also saw something tragic that happened in our country.

And when we think about it, with everything going on

right now, especially with the sudden loss and actually

murder of Charlie Kirk, a country feels shaken again.

Because just only a few months ago, it was for

another reason. And another reason. Actually, if we

look at life, we realize that so much happens in

every single day, and yet we are not aware of it.

Some of us are in that small little cocoon of ours. It’s like, I see nothing,

I hear nothing, I don’t want to deal with anything because it affects me.

And then there are those who are looking, searching, googling just

about everything in order for them to have something to feel justified.

You know, some admired him for giving young people a platform, especially young

conservatives. And then they’re speaking their truth for speaking with conviction.

And there was another part that he was so mainstream because of his faith

in what he believed that so many felt isolated and went against them.

Because they felt divided by his words, his style

and the way he fueled and came across controversial.

Either way, his presence and now his absence has steered

something in each and every one, either for him or against him.

But it has affected like a stress, like a pill, stress

in our homes, in our social media. And of course, the

only thing that I work with with my clients and how

stress affects you physically, mentally, emotionally.

And yes, you can say spiritually as well. This

is what I want you to see. This is what I want

you to recognize because what happens out there

is not separate from what happens inside you.

Just yesterday I had a client and this beautiful young presence

going to stay at the dormitory at UCLA. And she was saying, I asked

her, what is it that you are looking forward to? And she said, I

don’t know how my roommates, my environment is going to affect me.

And I said, so what the first thing you’re thinking about is how they

are going to affect you, not how wonderful it would be. And so exciting

about your curriculum because this lady, this young lady is a high

achiever, like a type, high achiever, beautiful, soul beautiful person.

And she said, no, because my environment, the school, and

especially my roommates will have a huge impact on me.

So we were talking about it is realizing that the choices that we

make from the moment you wake up, from the moment you step outside.

Although we are confronted with so much from traffic, honking, everything

that is happening, how the environment affects you makes a huge impact on us.

Because every headline, every comment, every post

online, I, you know, there are so many even on

my post that were pro against. So, sifting through

that, understanding everyone has an opinion.

And yet, your opinion does not have to be interjected in a way that is rude and

it is the comments are to hurt another person just because they make a comment.

The only reason I’m saying is because it travels through

our eyes and it travels through your, the way you look at

things, the travels stress and all that that affects you,

travels through your ears and write down to your core.

That’s what stress is. Stress is the number one disease in our

world. And all of this creates stress and it shakes, it shakes

your piece and it can rattle you, yes, you’re, it can rattle

your clarity, it can rattle all the way to feeling powerless.

That’s what walking on x-shells is all about. Because

when someone believes in something and they walk that line

and there are those who say you have no right to speak like

that, who gives us the right to say you are not allowed.

So, in a way, this controversial thing has created something

that, you know, it’s like critics say that often he

made a misleading remarks and yet it has placed us in a

way, a built-in network that so many are afraid to speak.

I know, it has created this escalation of

everyone talking at each other. It’s amplifying a

disinformation and even polarizing and this

social fragmentation that we are going through.

It’s like don’t burst my bubbles because I’m so comfortable and if

you do, I’m going to burst and that burst we don’t know how it is.

So, how we deal with stress, how we deal with social media, especially our

youth, our young youngsters who just listen and hear and coming to this level.

And coming to this moral jury, becoming this moral jury and realizing first

and foremost it’s affecting you physically. It’s affecting your nervous system.

And even seeing that image has shaken so many people because

for so many of us who have been around for the longest

time, it’s like the first thing I remember being a child

and seeing the image of when Kennedy was shot in live.

So, things even I get shaken up if I see a video of

someone being hurtful to a pet hurtful to anything.

It affects us, words have power and can’t hurt. So, understanding

that it has brought us to a point that even having live podcasts, some

people will be there to say thank you very much for this message and

others who will say how dare you speak this way because it is not right.

It is not right. Yes, we do have free speech in here, but our free speech

is not to harm another person, especially when we do it intentionally.

And everything that is going on right now is affecting

not only you but the people sitting next to you, even your

children because frankly they’re looking up at you. They’re

looking up to you and looking to see how it’s affecting you.

Because we are their models. Children are like sponges. When a child repeats

profanity, I say I wonder where they learned from. When children get all

that, it’s yes, just like my client, it’s affecting them and their environment

has their peer pressure being bullied has a huge effect how people respond.

And they want someone else to hurt. You know frankly, understanding what happened

is it’s realizing that I’m going to pause for a moment and say something.

We are in September and September is also suicide prevention

month and also understanding and become aware how your

children, your teenagers, how they are affected with everything

and especially the stress that they are under right now.

Not only watching everything that is going on

around the world, a 22-year-old being told or said

that he is the person, how that 22-year-old had

the cognitive to be trained and do everything.

And I’m not saying he didn’t do it, but when a

16-year-old, 18-year-old, 14-year-old, 12-year-old are

being under pressure not only in school at home,

environment, social media, all those effects are children.

So I guess they come to a confusion. They react without

understanding what is it that they are acting upon.

And the things that they see online impacts them, believe me, children and the younger

age see more on social media when they come

and tell me that I didn’t even know it exists.

And it’s self is so crucial because just two weeks ago, I had

a client, a young client in here that told me what he saw on

social media and the app that he has and the things that

underground, they can’t infiltrate and see and create and know.

It was shocking to me.

Now, some people will turn around and say, where have

you been, wake up children nowadays see too many things.

And here’s the thing that caveat is it affects them.

It affects every essence of who they are. It affects their

nervous system without them knowing about it, understanding it.

And they react to things when you know there’s good touch and there’s bad touch.

When someone touches you, especially coming from behind.

And if you feel good, if you feel safe, especially

in your environment, and you’ve never been

traumatized or your body has never been traumatized

or experienced bad touch, you will react normally.

It’s like, whoa.

And yet, if that body has experienced something awful,

like another client of mine, that we had to get to a

point because traumatic experiences, what we have to do

is we, many of us, find ways to desensitize ourselves.

Either creating a habit or a behavior that we pick in order for us to what

I call transfer and that feeling, what we see, what we do somewhere else.

And it can be by pulling hair, cutting, picking, smoking, or any other thing.

Because when something like that happens, and I don’t know if

you have experienced it or not, if you know someone who is doing

any behaviors as such, which is called in a way, self-punishment,

because underneath self-punishment comes, I am hurting myself.

Because I can’t deal with what’s happening outside,

and there is a core guilt and shame connected.

So, understanding this through hypnotherapy, what we do

is very gently, very gently and lovingly get to the core.

And once you get to that core, you start healing

that parts that was desensitized, not necessarily

to heal it, but to awaken it, understand, what

is it that I shot myself so, so much down.

And did not want to hear, did not want to see, did not

want to deal with it, which is what is happening nowadays,

that I pick up another habit or a behavior in order

for me, because this is too much for me to deal with.

And it can be a traumatic experience, as such as what we saw

this week, or a traumatic experience that happened to the self.

You see, two weeks ago, I’ll share this, I was at a seminar.

And someone highly professional in the medical

field was sharing how stress has affected him,

and for so many years, reaching to the top of

the top in his field, in the medical world.

And there was something called OCD that he had not

dealt with, and I may have shared about this or not.

For over 10 years of doing therapy.

And I sat there and I heard, and I felt for someone who was saying, I was

under so much stress, under so much guilt for every single day, putting a mask

on and showing up every single day, that it affected me every night, that I

would go and self punish myself to a point that he was even institutionalized.

And I just went and sat.

I asked you a question, just a question, a simple question, because I heard and

I took it in and all I could do is literally have compassion for this person.

And he said, sure.

So, when in your life as a child, you saw blood or a cut that was not dealt

with, and I just chapped on his shoulder, it was so much taller than me.

And I just tapped, tapped on his shoulder, and I said, at any time, when you were in

trial, when, as a child, did you see a cut or

a bleeding that you could not deal with it?

Took a moment and turned around and said, wow.

I don’t want to recall, and yet I also do not recall

anyone asking me that question in all my years of therapy.

So bluntly, so straight.

So, I want you to understand that so much happens

in your psyche, in your body, in your mindset, that

it can come from experiences that sit dormant, and

you never know when that bubble comes to burst.

So, what happened last week, what happened to my family,

that the death of my loving cousin, it was a traumatic

experience, because it was unexpected, and yet there are

so many things in life that we think it was unexpected.

It was not expecting, according to our way of being, and

yet as a destiny, if you believe in destiny, that was their

time, because it’s a conversation for you to think perhaps,

to have a conversation at home with your loved ones.

What are you going through? Is there something that I

can just sit with and listen? I’m here for you, right?

And because what happens, it shakes our peace, the peace that we know of, right?

So, what I would ask is for you to have a conversation, maybe

even lovingly hug someone, ask someone, how are you really doing?

Not, are you okay? Because even a genuine question about their well-being, just

to know that you are there, just to know that you care, can make a difference.

You know, I have a quote, and this is my quote, “The purpose of life is

finding your purpose for loving.” This is one of my quotes that I say

all the time, and I created it because it was someone asked me, what is

your purpose? And I’m like, I don’t know, but my purpose is to find out.

My purpose is for living. So, when you know your

purpose, when you choose what grounds you, what keeps you

safe, gives you that grounding and clarity, the noise

loses its own effect, especially from the outside.

People’s judgment, people’s criticism, people’s,

there’s so many, all the he said and she said, right?

So, to begin, respond instead of react. That’s one. Breathe

in, take a moment, give oxygen to your body before you attack.

And simply stand taller and be proud of who you are. I invite you to pause

today and say thank you to those who truly mean something to your life.

And it can be someone that you look up to or

someone or a pet that you genuinely love and care.

Place your hand on your part, breathe in. Let’s do this together and say I accept and

appreciate myself far more deeply than ever

before. And this is the pledge I make to me.

I choose peace, I choose clarity, and I choose a better purpose.

And if you are ready to calm your mind and

reset your body from the core, and especially

have mindfulness, finding that purpose for

your living, remember, I’m always here for you.

Because this is how we evoke, this is how we

embrace, and this is how we evolve in life.

So, let’s connect because you’re healing and

your peace and your purpose truly matters to me.

So, thank you for today and until next week, God bless

you and may do universal light surround you always.

Bye bye.