Love as Energy – Not Effort

Welcome to Heal Talk Tuesdays with Liza, where

transformation begins as we evoke, embrace, and evolve.

Greetings Greetings Greetings Greetings and welcome to Heal Talk Tuesday. This is Liza.

Maybe love isn’t hard to find. Maybe it’s just tired of being chased.

Because love doesn’t respond to effort, actually it responds to energy.

As I said, today we’re going to be talking about

love through a gentler and more honest way.

Actually a lens, just like what we are doing right now.

Because not something that we chase or fix. It’s an energy

that comes for us and not only through us, but towards us.

What we know is love attraction.

Today we’re talking about love as an energy, how

self-love, self-respect, and self-acceptance.

Shape or experience.

And why so many of us feel blocked in love?

And when we are doing everything right, like this conversation is not

about being thinking positive or positive thinking or even inner safety.

You may have heard the question about money.

So many talk about the love of attraction, the love attraction

for money, the love attraction for relationship or a partner.

You know, now they just like the chicken soup for the soul, for this, for that.

Actually Mark Hanson, when he wrote that book,

it was a thought that they came together and they took that

one idea, the love attraction, the chicken soup for something.

And now is one of the biggest things because

it has been translated to so many languages.

But on the line, it’s all about love.

Actually, Super Bowl, the message at half time was about love.

So, just like money, because we say, why is it that certain people

know how to make money and others have this block about money,

I was reading something and it was what if money is energy and would

you still speak about it the same way if you were to change it?

Because that’s what love is.

If you were to change the book set, since you think so

negatively about money and you write things that money,

that money is negative or it’s hard to have or

the parents said, money does not grow on the tree.

If you were to change the word money to energy,

what would that feel or look like for you?

How would it sound for you?

So, is energy root about evil? Is energy growing on

the tree or does not grow on the tree? Of course not.

Because what you are saying becomes your reality.

Are you bracing for disappointment? Are you trying to

prove your worth? Are you chasing instead of allowing?

Because energy responds to clarity, not urgency.

That’s it. It’s about clarity. When we feel aligned, when

we are open, and as they say, when we have our hands up,

it’s just like asking, allowing instead of forcing and

pushing, no matter what we force, it creates a negative energy.

Because when we allow, and we are open, then love

becomes lighter when it rests on a tree of foundation.

Because self-love, how we speak to oneself, how you listen

to yourself, how you speak towards yourself especially.

When you stand in front of a mirror, what do you see? Do you see you?

Or do you look for your flaws first? A few days ago,

because I don’t do this every day, I got on the scale.

And as I got on the scale, it was looking down, listen to

this. What is the scale? It’s looking down to see in number.

That represents where I was, where you are. So as we are looking down,

we see the scale give us a number that we either like, makes us happy.

Or we turn around and go, “I have gained so much.”.

That number translates to how I speak about myself all day long, what

I think about myself all day long, or it brings me down energetically.

Does that make sense? Because in a way, what we tolerate

and what we no longer excuse is called self-acceptance.

So think about this. How you speak about yourself and how

you look at yourself is to realize there is no perfection.

No matter how many words, how many nip-talks, no matter how much we change,

we’ll still find something that we want to enhance and make it better.

That’s the difference. Instead of the negative

looking down, we want to make it better.

So when these are present, love no longer needs to feel

best-break. It feels possible. Changing that number becomes

possibility when I look up and say, “That’s the embrace.” Saying,

“Not bad. What can I do better if I want to make it better?”.

So it’s looking through a different lens. It’s

understanding where you are today and where you want to be.

That’s why I created this method, the Boubari 3E method, is what

was. Where I was. If I am alone by myself, do I want a partner?

Do I want to have a love relationship? And where are you in

life? Are you single? Are you separated? Are you divorced?

Are you a widow? Are you in a relationship, a happy relationship,

a not a happy relationship? Where are you right now?

That is the embrace part. Because no matter where we are today, it’s because of

everything that you have gone through

already to be where you are today, isn’t it?

It doesn’t matter if it’s good, it’s bad, it’s right, it’s

wrong, you had a hand in it. Things, oops. Let me bring

them volume down. For God, completely. Things do not happen

to us. I know it sounds like a cliche, but it is true.

It’s realizing that everything is for you.

Even if it is hard times, even when you look

back and I remember looking back and saying,

“My relationships, this, this, this, wow.”.

And if I were to write every single relationship that I have been, the men who

happen in my life, from day one until today, there is a whole link in there.

One of the strongest things you can be, and it’s called strength,

is being vulnerable. Love in itself is vulnerability. Being alone

is a vulnerability. You get to know yourself. Do you know how many

clients I’ve had? I don’t know if this resonates with you or not.

I’ve had clients who have come and said, “I’ve never been alone. I

don’t know what being alone means.” When I was with the family and then

I got married and then I’ve got kids, now I’ve got grandkids, I don’t

eat by myself, I don’t go anywhere by myself. I’m always with someone.

Because in my intake form, when you come in here, in my intake form, there

are some of the questions that it’s like a self-reflection. Getting to

ask yourself certain questions. What are your strengths? What are your

weaknesses? What is it that you like? What is that you dislike? Do you speak?

Is it words that matter to you more? Or is it touch that matters

to you more? Is it what people do for you that matters more?

Because those are the low languages and the way I have put it

in my intake form is for you to reflect to get to know yourself.

Once you are so in tune with you, that is, it’s like vulnerability.

This is being brought with yourself. I know it’s hard

to really put down your flaws or your weaknesses and it’s not

to put you down, but for you to realize, what is my weakness?

Or what you think is your weakness? Because maybe what you think

is your weakness may not be the same for a loved one or someone

else. What we think of ourselves often is so different than

when other people see us or hear us, or when they are with us.

You might think you are perfect and then someone would say, “Are you kidding me?”

Or you might think you are so funny and

they might say, “You are not funny at all.”.

So our perception may not be the same from someone

else. Stay tuned with me because if you are

able to stay until the end, allow this few moments

in just for you because to soften, to reset,

and restore balance within, allow yourself, because I am going to reduce your moments

of hypnosis. This is going to be a hypnosis of blood, self-reflection and self-love.

Today’s message is this, allow yourself to appreciate

and accept yourself far more deeply than before.

To be more open and instead of looking down, look more

up into the mirror and smile because you are a miracle.

As long as you can see yourself in the mirror, you can hear yourself speak.

You can even smell the Cologne or even the skin, your skin has a smell.

You can taste every aspect of you is a miracle and

that starts with appreciating yourself. Being open.

If you cannot love yourself, what if you start being kinder to yourself?

That’s the first step. And there are people

who literally bodacious these standing in front

of the mirror and love themselves and can’t

amism arise with themselves and that in itself.

There is an awesome thing. It’s not how selfish you are, but

how self-centered you are. It’s appreciating who you are.

Now give yourself permission if you would like to. Just sit back,

put your feet down. If you want to close your eyes, you can.

We’re just soften your gaze so that you can just listen and take this a

little deep breath through your nose and release it through your mouth.

Again, nice deep breath. Hold for three, two, one, exhale. One

more time, nice deep breath. Breathing in calm, exhaling effort.

Let your shoulders relax. Allow your jaw muscles

to relax. If you want to stretch your jaw, just…

Oh my God! I had a dirtiness such a long time. It even affected

me, I know. You’re going to open your eyes to see what it was.

When you’re young, you’re young and all the jaw

muscles open. So go ahead. Nice deep breath in, exhale.

Now yawn. Open your jaw muscles. What were time? I think so. That’s it.

If you keep yawning, by bringing in oxygen and vitality

inside, and as it lingers all the way down from

your nostrils to the back of your nose, all the way

down through the canal, all the way to your chest.

Tap three times, opening your heart, expanding your heart.

This tapping allows your heart chakra to open.

And just the same way as you took a nice deep breath

in, you might even have tears swelling in your eyes.

And if tears come rolling down, allow it. Perhaps you had not

connected with your body, and given yourself permission to connect.

Just place your hand and allow it to stay on your heart on your chest.

And allow your left hand linger on your tummy, dropping your shoulders.

Your body does not need to hold anything right now, just letting it go.

Imagine your body settling, not sinking, not disappearing, just being.

With each and every breath, bringing in oxygen and

vitality, love, just arriving, allowing breath to linger.

As you accept and appreciate yourself, this amazing

body of yours that you have that has been holding you,

shielding you, protecting you, all through, through

all the phases from childhood to youth, adulthood.

And to know, I’m through and through.

As if every cell is hearing this message that you

are safe to be here, repeating within silently.

You can repeat these words within yourself.

I am safe.

I am safe with me.

I am safe in my body.

I am safe.

I am healing.

I do not trace love.

I allow love.

I am allowed to be appreciated just as I am.

I am loving.

I am lovable.

I know how to love.

I can be kind.

I choose kindness.

I choose love and appreciation, self acceptance, standing up for me.

And while these words are gently, softly, easily

lingering within you, within your mind, let me remind

you, this gentle, warm breath that surrounds your

heart, and reminds you that you can be steady.

You can be calm.

You can be kind.

You can be loving.

This is the energy of self acceptance.

Allowing your system to remind you of this feeling of wordiness.

Knowing what is familiar and being

recognizable and knowing that you are worthy.

And as you are sitting here with yourself,

either your eyes open or your eyes closed, I

want you to think of every single person in your life that has been part of your life.

Perhaps from childhood, the house you grew up in, the sounds in the house,

the good, the bad, the right, the wrong, harsh sounds, loving sounds.

And just let it linger, and as you exhale, blow it away and release it.

Then go to the next phase, perhaps elementary times, school years.

Those you cared for, those you looked up

to, those who were mean to you, bullied you,

those who were your best friend, your groupies,

the good times, and not so good times.

It’s as if watching a movie and let that scene linger and blow it away.

And allow the next phase in your life, perhaps your

high school years, your college years, come into mind.

Perhaps your first love, loving relationships,

the ones who loved you, the ones you loved.

Perhaps not even so much loving.

And it doesn’t matter again, just recognizes, validated, and release it.

Perhaps 10 years ago, 20 years ago, even a year ago, where you were, where

you were now, recognizing each and every one, are just thoughts and memories.

For what are memories, snippets of image, of

a moment that you banked into your memory.

And you gave it a title, the good, the bad, the right, the

wrong, the mean, the loving, the harsh times, the good times.

The awful times, the painful times, and the loving, this blissful times, the romance.

Those are titles you gave.

And today, with all the experiences that you

have had, every sense that you still recognize,

as it smells good or yuck, every touch that

may be loving and comforting and safe for you.

Every sound that makes you cringe or makes you smile.

Recognizing this is all about you.

It’s called self-appreciation, acceptance, and validation of where

you have been, evoking all those to embrace where you are today.

That’s taking ownership of everything you have been through to be where you are now.

And how you evolve and where you go may it be more of a blessing

and kindness and love and acceptance and appreciation of yourself.

And the ones that you choose to surround yourself with.

Why would you want to be around something, de-gating the best of you?

Because you do matter. Choose kindness and love.

As I close for today, I want you to remember, love

does not respond to effort, it responds to alignment.

And when you offer yourself this acceptance instead of judgment, respect

instead of pressure and compassion instead of criticism, your energy shifts,

and when your energy shifts, your experiences follow and flow and

recognize that you are the best, magical thing right here today.

And for that, I want to say thank you. For being

part of Heal Talk Tuesday, and next week, on

Valentine’s, remember, with or without someone,

give yourself something loving and be kind to you.

Thank you for gracing me on this day with grace and clarity. Until next

time, God bless you and may the universal light surround you always.

And this is Liza Boubari, your expert hypnotherapist. If this

message resonated with you, let’s connect. You’re not alone.

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