War, Worry & Your Nervous System

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transformation begins as we evoke, embrace, and evolve.

Greetings, greetings, greetings, and welcome to Heal Talk Tuesdays with Liza.

When war is away, and yet your nervous system feels as if you were

there, that’s going to be the talk for this week’s Heal Talk Tuesday.

And as we set the day, I want to first and foremost start with a prayer.

And with the rest of the day, we will be able to come to the end

of the day, and we will be able to live in the end of the day.

From the at bushing, the Tama moment for me, Baha’am Buham Buhan.

It is just a simple way of saying, thank you, and prayers to all of those who

are in Iran, who are going through what is happening in Iran, in Middle East.

And affecting so many right here right now, because the topic today is war and worry.

And although you may not be there, that your nervous system

doesn’t know any better, and it’s affecting you in so many ways.

The reason I’m saying, I’m getting a call, the

reason I’m saying is because if you have family

in Iran, if you have family in the Middle East,

if you are watching the news or even the social

media and feel unsettled, especially if you can’t

sleep at night, and you’re constantly checking

your phone wanting to know if there is a message,

if you can connect because I have family in Iran.

And frankly, I have not been able to connect

with them, so feeling that tightness in the

chest and concern instead of worry, stay with

me because we’re going to be talking about that.

Because this conversation, if this supports you, if this is affecting

you, I invite you to like and subscribe and share this message.

And someone else may need it. I’m going to give you a gift at

the end of this, and for you to be able to relax and unwind.

Because I had a client just yesterday who came

in, and her brother and family are stuck in Iran.

They went there to visit family and for some

health issues they have been stuck. They couldn’t

get out, and now with the war and everything,

they are not able to come out of the country.

And that has created a tornado for her sister, for her brother

that are here, and everybody in concern. She’s not the only one.

And I don’t know if you have any dear ones anywhere in Middle East, because she

was on pins and needles. Her chest,

palpitation, hyperventilate, and with shallow

breathing and not being able to sleep in the last three days, like literally being

awake until three o’clock, and falling asleep,

getting up at six o’clock to go to work.

And she’s not functioning well. Well, she said, “I feel

like I’m living with them, and yet I am so far away.” When

she came in yesterday, it was her second session. She came

Friday and yesterday. She needed to come in as emergency.

Believe it or not, in just one session, what she received was

a tremendous help, because she said, “I do not understand what

you did, or how this hypnosis, whatever it is that you did,

put me more in control, that I could sleep even five hours.”.

That sentence is so powerful, because what

changed? The word did not change. Her brother and

family are still back home. The news definitely

has not changed, and neither has the uncertainty.

So, what has changed is her nervous system. Her nervous system was to a point of

understanding it’s not happening to me. It’s not happening right here right now.

And when we are exposed to repeated threats like sirens, like

the sounds of foam, like screams from places. And if you have

never got prepared, if you have never been in any situation

to have war or anything, then you may really not understand.

Because I think that the closest thing that most Americans

have come to understanding their life being shattered,

other than personal, I’m talking about in big way, is

what happened in 9/11. And that affected two towers.

And yet, the entire America was in shambles. Everything froze. Everything

became that. And we were not there, and yet we got the impact of it.

Now, here are folks who are under siren. Sounds, scream,

sounds up sirens for them to take shelter. And it’s only

not only in Iran, it’s Middle East. It’s Dubai, it’s Kuwait,

it’s Lebanon, it’s even Israel, it’s even hit Emirates.

So, the conflicting opinions that we hear today, the

brain does not distinguish between the rectangle or

perceived danger. If we have ever felt what danger is

all about. So, what is happening to our body right here?

That, a medulla, that we have the alarm

center that we have in our brain, it’s like it

lights up, and it lights up and goes like on fire. It’s like alert system. And if you

remember that more would go, no,

no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, right? I know

it’s not funny, but the closest thing that I can come up with is like electrifying.

Because who have gone through, sorry, the same, the word rape, and

this is a social global way. So, your body goes to what? It goes to

the chest gets tightened. It contracts. The fast breeding starts

shallow breeding starts going into hyperventilation, racing thoughts.

Of course, it never goes into something positive, it goes

into something negative automatically. And then we go into

what? You can’t sleep, you can’t function. When we talk about

functional freeze, this is another way of functional freeze.

And it doesn’t matter if it’s personal rape function, you’ve been in an

accident, and the impact hits you out of nowhere. Even the sound of the crush

of the sound of a car, the squeaks of the tires. Now, this is magnified

10,000 times more. What it does, it’s a fact every essence of who they are.

The nervous system is constantly on alert system and has no time

to breathe. So, if I were to say alert is enough and I can protect

them, this is what happens. Worry when you, but worry goes into

a whole different level because it does not know how to protect.

Worry is something that it’s out there and you have absolutely

no control. You are sitting and worrying, even going

into a rocking system, pulling your hair, biting your

nails, every aspect of negative behavior comes to fruition.

And especially not knowing what to do, feeling helpless, that exhaustion

weakens your immune system, that exhaustion weakens your clarity and calmness.

So, how did I benefit? How did hypnosis benefit my

client? Hypnosis works because we’re not here to

argue with fear. Fear is real. Fear is happening.

It is a fact. There is nothing that we can deny.

What we do is re-regulate the body, the nervous system.

So, what we do is help the nervous system come to

a point that she or anyone of us can breathe. Go

ahead. You can do this with me. Let’s do this together.

Just hold for a second and exhale. When they say you’re

in a plane, when you’re going through, do this, I don’t

have it. I have a cup. I don’t have a bag for you to

take the bag and you go, and you blow it in the back.

This is exactly what it is. It’s like

breathing into the back. When the body feels

safe enough, that’s when it starts breathing a little bit more softer, calmer.

When the mind has enough time to become just a tad more clear, because when the

subconscious receives calming signals, then the body goes, “Okay, I am safe.”

So, when the survival aspect calms down, the perception

returns to, “Okay, I am not there. I am here.” Even

when we are in an alert system, realizing, “I am safe

at this very moment right here in my body, in my body.”.

I mean it. The main thing is reiterating that message to the body.

“I am safe. I can hear, I can smell, I can taste, I’m okay.”.

Just that, the body receives the message that,

“I am okay.” Then it can have, just even if it

is one second, ten seconds, one minute of

breathing time, because one minute is a long time.

For the body to have, “Okay, I can do this.” “I am

safe.” “Now what do I do?” “How do I manage? How do

I go into control? How do I go into a safety mode?”

Because the brain exists in survival mode. It does.

Automatically, no matter what sound we hear, what alarm we

hear, we are going into survival. What do I do to keep me safe?

Except, the biggest bodyguard you have is your body, your nervous system.

The wind survival mode calms down, that’s, as

I said, you become calmer and calm is strength.

You are always quiet here. Thank you.

You just tap. You say, “I can handle this. I’m in control.”

And then if you tap right here, there’s a small little vent.

And if you do this like a violin or just a tapping, I can handle this. I’m

really calmly. I can handle this. I’m in control. I got this. I got this.

Just this tapping enough, because when we tap to awaken and calm this, and as you

tap on your clavicle right here, to calmly smooth and sued and bring calmness.

And do this, I can handle this. Your body receives

signal that you are in total control. Now, right now,

as you pause with me, I want you to place your hand

on your chest and the other one on your abdominal.

And you’re going to say, “Liza, you’ve done this before, yes.” No matter

how many times you do this, you are safeguarding your part. And when

you place your hand on your tummy, your body says, “My central system,

my core, my intuition, I am placing my hand and saying, ‘I am safe.'”.

And as you inhale slowly, easily, gently, calmly, you might

even feel as if your head is spinning or you’re getting dizzy.

And the reason for that is because oxygen just went into your brain, a tad of oxygen.

You signaled your body, I can handle this. You told your

heart, “I’m okay.” Which is the emotions, which every

essence of you is being regulated, your nervous system,

from your core, from your heart, from your brain.

And when you give it oxygen, your brain has just a millisecond,

10 seconds, 20 seconds, a minute of moment to calm down.

So, just let your shoulders out, you can even wiggle, shake your hands off, just

shake it off, shake it off, just sing, wait, there’s something happens, let me go.

Do this, because your body can stand now. Your body has

the moment for those who have heard the sirens before,

for those who remember hiding, for those who know more,

your body remembers every essence of your body remembers.

If you’ve been in an accident, I work with people who have

been in extreme accidents, even the sound of accident, the

shattering, the shock system, the what the body goes there,

muscle has memory, the nervous system remembers those.

What we do is bypass the fear factor to give your body I am safe.

That memory deserves compassion. Every essence of you deserves compassion.

You know, when I say this, it’s not being dramatic, it’s not

being weak, it’s not being out of control, it’s being human.

And when I say human is realizing that I too watch the news, and

this is happening in my country, the country that I was born out.

Someone just asked me and said, “What’s it to you?” And I’m thinking,

“What do you mean, what’s it to me?” It’s what’s it to all of us.

What’s it to all of us? And it’s not where you were

born, because if other countries, if everywhere, we march

for one small, literal thing that happens, the entire

people in universities that human rights stand up.

And for the voice of humanity, and here we are, thousands

are being affected, and you’re asking me, “What’s it to you?”

The only answer that I could give is you have never been under

a bomb, or gone into a shelter, perhaps you have been safe this

entire time, and perhaps you haven’t even been affected by what

we call post-traumatic trauma, or a trauma, or perhaps we can all.

Have compassion, and understand one thing.

It’s not for me, it’s not for you, it’s for all of us

globally. But when someone asks that, I have compassion for

that person, because there is not a human being that I know

living on this mother earth that has not experienced any

kind of trauma. Unless there is a denial that might

trauma, or there trauma, I can’t relate to, perhaps they

haven’t related to their own, and they need to understand

how the body goes into a protect system, and the effects.

So, it’s about humanity, that’s all I can

say. I am proud to say I am an Armenian born

in Iran, living in this country for 49 years,

and the people in Iran, the people under.

Oppression for so many years, all they want is freedom, and they’re

willing to go through all this to have a sense of freedom and peace.

It will take a while, and yet here we are celebrating the opportunity, the

thought, the idea of freedom, because in life we all want joy, happiness, and love.

And yes, peace. So, if you are feeling overwhelmed, if you

have not been able to sleep, you’re going through anxiety, your

sleep has shifted, your body has shifted, you’re on an edge,

being on this, I know you need to know, but this is affecting you.

This is affecting every essence of who you are, and that’s not the way to function.

Create boundaries for yourself, create a timeline

that I can check every half an hour for three

minutes, that’s called time management, and

you can segregate time to be in touch, because.

Shattering yourself is not helping anyone else, especially your work, your

family, your boss, your productivity, and your body, your nervous system.

So, even one or two sessions of hypnosis can help you. As I

said, I’m going to give you, if you text a relax to 818-221-2797.

I will give you a free download of stress no more. So, you can

relax and unwind in the comfort of your home, or even in the

car. It’s half an hour, maybe 25 minutes, just for you to

listen and allow your body to calm your body to calm your body.

Allow this nervous system to calm down, to go in

control, and know you can handle it. Because I’m

here alongside you, my countryman, the people here,

and he doesn’t matter where we are in this world.

Having compassion and care for another human

being, not only human, it is our due diligence.

That’s called care, that’s called love, that’s

called compassion. What goes around, comes around.

So, because when we can and we care, it happens. So,

thank you for being here, and I am proud for who I

am. I’m proud where I come from, and I pray, not only

my family members, your family members, neighbors,

countrymen, my friends, families, everyone comes

through all this, safe and sound. I know where.

It’s like we go through pain to gain, we go through feeling powerless, insecure,

all this negative thinking, in order for us to gain something better in life.

You can always evoke your true feeling and embrace where you are right here,

right now, and evolve towards calm clarity, even through uncertain times.

And when I say this, I mean it. God bless you, especially nowadays, and made

the universal light surround you always. I’m Liza Boubari. I’m here for you.

Oh, I forgot, I forgot to say this. On March 9th, next Monday,

I am having a group session here, and what it is, I know it’s

international women’s day, but ladies, if you want to feel how to

relax, how to calm down, how to have more control physically, mentally,

emotionally, and connect with, then, yourself,

I also teach self hypnosis, so it rate you

can regulate your own bodily function and your

negative thoughts, so you can sleep better,

you can feel better, and know that no matter

where you are, no matter what is happening in

the world, you are safe, and your body is

safe, and your emotions are intact and clarity.

So, look for it, the message and the information is right there.

It’s my group session. You can even call me at 818-551-1501.

The message me right here on Facebook, and I look forward to seeing you

next Monday, space is limited, so make sure you sign up. It’s from 6 to 8.

It’s $39 for 2 hours. So, let us come together. Let us hold hands with one

another, and remember, the only way you can succeed is to empower yourself.

Nothing in life empowers you and gives yourself pride

than you. See you next week. God bless. See you next week.

And this is Lazy Boubari, your expert hypnotherapist. If this

message resonated with you, let’s connect. You’re not alone.